Monday, November 16, 2009

3 Word Phrases Make All the Difference in the World by Sheikh Sajid Javed

The Most Powerful 3 Words Phrases

Sheikh Sajid Javed, ACMA   APA

The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship.

 These are just three little But Very Powerful words:

I'll Be There

If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase " I'll be there. " Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we're truly present for other people, important things happen to them & us. We are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.

I Miss You

Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and sincerely say to each
other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how ecstatic you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."

I Respect You / I Trust You

Respect and trust is another way of showing love. Its conveys the feeling that another person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults you will strengthen the bonds and become close friends. This applies to all interpersonal relationships

Maybe You're Right

This phrase is highly effective in diffusing an argument and restoring frayed emotions. The flip side to "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting maybe "I'm wrong". Let's face it. When you have a heated argument with someone, all you do is cement the other person's point of view. They, or you, will not change their stance and you run the risk of seriously damaging the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door to further explore the subject, in which you may then have the opportunity to get your view across in a more rational manner.

Please Forgive Me

Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today than he was yesterday.

I Thank You

Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.

Count On Me

A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential ingredient for true friendship; it is the emotional glue that bonds people. Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can count on me."

Let Me Help

The best of friends see a need and try to fill it. When they spot a hurt they do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they pitch in and help.

I Understand You

People become closer and enjoy each other more if they feel the other person accepts and understands them. Letting your spouse know in so many little ways that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing relationship . This applies to any relationship.

Go For It

We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how weird they seem to you. Everyone has dreams, dreams that are unique to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their dreams. Tell them to "go for it."

I Love You

Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words "I love you."

Patty De says:  All the way from Pakistant.....Thank you Sheikh!
   Let me tell you a little more about his background:

I am working as “Deputy Director Finance” in “Pearl Continental Hotel, Lahore” for the last 7+ years.
I  started my career in March 2002 as a “Payable officer” and then based on my performance and qualification I got 5 promotions in 1st 4 years which has given me immense in depth knowledge and experience of all related areas of Finance and Accounts.

“Pearl Continental Hotel” is the leading 5 star hotel in Pakistan and in the hotels’ top ranking it is considered as number 1 in Hotel Industry. “Pearl Continental Hotel” is owned and operated by the “Pakistan Services Limited” which has its’ registered office in Karachi and the group is known as “Hashoo Group” which has 43 big Subsidiary and Associated Companies in Pakistan and all over the world.

In Hotel line it has Pearl Continental Hotel in 7 cities (Lahore, Karachi, Peshawar, Rawalpindi, Muzaffarabad, Gawader, Faislabad) and “Marriott Hotel” in 2 cities (Karachi and Islamabad)


Nisar Ahmad said...

I Thank You Sajid...

Alasdar Browne said...

Excellent post and enjoyable read. As an Executive Coach some I use are:

- You go first
- Do you mean...?
- Let's be clear
- Wow, that's brilliant!
- Thanks for sharing
- Made my day
Posted by Alasdar Browne

Corrie Wolcott said...

As an OD & Training Performance Consultant, I like the ones mentioned above and will use them. Let me add 12 to the list from a probing perspective (Use these to get more information with your clients)

- I am Interested
- Can we explore
- Is feedback specific
- Let's start here
- What's your objective
- Is information accurate
- Are resources available?
- Are procedures clear?
- I hear you
- Excellent, another perspective
- Are you engaged?
- What works well?

A.K. Badrinath said...

: New comment (13) on "The Most Powerful 3 Words Phrases The following three-word phrases can enrich every relationship. These are just three little But Very Powerful words:"
1. Together, we win!
2. Job well done!
3. You are capable!
4. I am always there!
5. Anything for you!

Dr. Neen said...

i love this article. 3 words that are simple, yet powerful. the important thing is to take the time to express them. why is that so challenging? if we keep it uppermost in our mind to help people feel valued, everyday, then perhaps, we will all remember to use some of these 3-word phrases.

Go For It! I'll be there!

Dr. Neen

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